• Dr Jodie Bradnam

Attune and Attend

Bids for attention and connection are embedded in the little things; the kiss we exchange when we return home, the midday text that asks, “how’s your day?”, the attention we pay to our partner’s invitation to take a walk together or to try a new restaurant.

These bids for connection are more than gestures, they are the seeds that foster intimacy, fondness, affection and connection. When we reliably respond to bids by turning towards our partner, we communicate that “you matter to me”. Our shared emotional lives are built in these moments of connection. These are the moments when we demonstrate our love in action.